How to Handle “Food Pushers”
“Come on, just a taste!”
“Here, take the last scoop- I know it’s your favorite!”
You’re at Thanksgiving dinner. You’re comfortably full and satisfied. Your loving, well-intentioned grandmother comes at you with a huge scoop of stuffing and nods towards your plate. What do you do?
We’ve all been in this situation at one point or another (especially around the holidays!) and it can often feel uncomfortable. But, politely declining unwanted food is an important part of self-care. Whether you’re feeling full, trying to stick to your goals, or you simply don’t like the offered food, respecting and honoring your body should always be your number one priority.
Note: If you feel that whatever the “food pusher” offers is worth the indulgence – go for it! Enjoy the food and own your decision.
If not, here’s a few strategies for dealing with food pushers that have worked for my clients (and myself!):
1. “Thank you, but I’m not hungry right now.”
Be polite but firm in your response and then quickly change the subject, “I heard you’re going away for the New Year. I’d love to hear more!” Ask a question that requires a thoughtful response so you can turn the spotlight away from you and onto them.
2. “But I made it just for you!”
Ugh, the guilt trip. Again, politely decline and change the subject. Or, tell the person that you’re quite full at the moment and would love to wrap it up and take it home with you for later.
3. “What? Are you on a diet?”
Comments like this can definitely cause some frustration especially at the dinner table when every one is eating. Take a deep breath. Then, let them know that you eat what makes you feel healthy and happy and if they’d like to discuss it more, you’d be happy to after dinner. Always avoid talking about food and diet at the dinner table. If someone else brings it up, do your best to change the subject.
4. Tell the truth
If you’re close with the “food pusher” sit down and have a heart to heart. Explain that while you appreciate the love and care, you set a goal for yourself and need to stick to your plan. Let them know what they can do to help (offer vegetables with dinner, etc.). If you’re speaking to them before a holiday, you may just explain that you are trying to be in tune with your hunger signals and it makes it harder to do when they persist.
Have a happy and healthy Thanksgiving!!
